Dear Mama,
I see the profound depth of pain you’re carrying after the death of your precious child.
That physical ache in your chest that feels like an actual hole.
The bone-deep exhaustion that leaves you wondering how you can keep breathing when part of your soul feels missing.
I see how you’ve tried everything they’ve recommended—the therapy, the support groups, the self-help books, the meditation, the medication.
I see how you’ve forced yourself to participate in life again—returning to work, maintaining connections, setting goals.
I see your confusion and despair when, despite doing everything “right,” the pain remains just as intense as it was in those early days.
Your grief hasn’t followed their timeline. The wound feels as raw today as when it first tore open your heart.
And beneath it all, that fear—that something must be wrong with you, that you’re grieving “incorrectly.”
You’ve likely been told this is “just grief” - something to process, to work through, to eventually move beyond.
Perhaps you’ve tried traditional counseling or support groups, only to feel even more isolated when their approaches couldn’t touch the depth of your pain.
Your heart knows the truth: what you’re experiencing isn’t ordinary sadness.
It’s a profound spiritual injury that occurred when death seemed to tear apart what was meant to be an eternal bond.
Spiritual Root Cause
What no one has told you is that your enduring pain isn’t psychological dysfunction. It’s a profound spiritual wound that conventional approaches don’t address.
The bond between you and your child wasn’t just emotional—it’s a sacred connection.
From the moment you conceived your child, your spiritual body began an extraordinary transformation.
Just as your physical body created new organs and systems to nurture your growing child, your spiritual anatomy underwent a profound restructuring to create sacred spaces for eternal connection.
Think of it like your spirit building a temple - one with special chambers precisely shaped to hold your child’s unique soul essence, sacred pathways designed to channel maternal love, and holy spaces dedicated to eternal communion.
These weren’t just emotional connections but actual spiritual structures, as real as your physical organs, each one crafted by love to maintain your sacred bond.
Remember how you could sense exactly what your child needed, even before they could speak?
When Death Creates Rupture
So when your child died, it didn’t just end a relationship - it created what ancient wisdom traditions call a “spiritual crisis.”
Imagine if physical organs that had grown together were suddenly torn apart.
This is what happened on a spiritual level - a violent disruption in the unified field that connected your souls.
This explains why your grief feels so physically overwhelming:
- The hole in your heart is an actual sacred chamber standing empty
- Your bone-deep exhaustion comes from energy literally draining through torn connection points
- The feeling of being incomplete is your spiritual body recognizing its fragmentation
- The weight on your chest represents pressure in your spiritual heart center
This isn’t your imagination or “just emotions” - these are real sensations reflecting genuine spiritual injury.
Why Traditional Support Falls Short
Now you can understand why traditional grief support often feels inadequate. Most approaches treat grief as primarily emotional or psychological, offering coping strategies and emotional processing techniques.
But when you’re experiencing actual spiritual wounding, these surface-level approaches can’t reach deep enough to create true healing.
It’s like offering counseling to someone with a physical injury - while emotional support might help with the trauma, it cannot heal the actual wound.
They treat your continuing anguish as “complicated grief” rather than recognizing it as an APPROPRIATE RESPONSE to spiritual injury.
Your grief needs spiritual medicine that can work at the level of soul injury.
Empowering Truth
Here is the empowering truth I invite you to repeat to yourself in those moments when your grief becomes unbearable.
“My persistent pain is not because I’m failing at grief but because I am experiencing a sacred wound which requires spiritual medicine. What they call ‘complicated grief’ is actually my soul wisdom understanding my connection with my child continues beyond physical separation.
While death has disrupted my physical connection, it cannot destroy the eternal bond I share with my child. My spiritual structures remain, waiting to transform into new forms that can bridge physical and spiritual realms.
Throughout history, mothers who have walked this path of child loss were honored as those who could “walk between worlds”—women whose profound initiation through grief gave them access to expanded consciousness and spiritual wisdom.
Rather than being encouraged to “move on,” they were respected for their capacity to maintain connections across dimensions.
My continuing love isn’t something to overcome but a sacred bridge waiting to be crossed.
Through dreams, signs, and subtle sensing, a different kind of relationship becomes possible - one that can continue growing and evolving in beautiful ways. These aren’t fantasies but genuine spiritual encounters that begin healing the disrupted connection my soul seeks to restore.
The path forward isn’t about closure but about expansion—I am learning to hold both my child’s absence and presence simultaneously as I become a walker between worlds. A multidimensional mama.”
So dear mama, please know that you aren’t grieving incorrectly—you’re being called to one of the most profound spiritual initiations a human can experience.
And through this sacred journey, you carry medicine not just for your own healing but for the healing of all mothers walking this path of child loss and for our collective remembering of eternal truths about love, consciousness, and the bonds that transcend death itself.
A Simple Practice to Begin
Today, I invite you to try a gentle practice called Sacred Wound Mapping. Find a quiet moment and:
- Place your hand over your heart
- Close your eyes and breathe slowly
- Notice where in your body you feel your grief most strongly
- Without trying to change anything, simply witness these sensations with compassion
- Acknowledge these aren’t just emotions but reflections of your sacred love
- End by saying: “This pain honors the depth of our eternal bond”
Remember, dear mama, your grief is holy because it reflects the sacred nature of your maternal love.
Your continuing ache testifies to a bond so profound that even death cannot end it.
In the weeks ahead, I’ll share more understanding about your sacred wound and gentle ways to work with dreams and spiritual connection as pathways for healing.
Until next week, please know that you’re held in deep understanding.
Your grief is seen. Your love is honored. Your eternal connection with your child remains.
Trust your deepest knowing.
With profound reverence for your sacred journey,
Ning
